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  Operation Serve to Heal

Operation Serve to Heal is simply a service initiative.

We hold ours during a time that is most healing for us.

Would you like to host your own Operation Serve to Heal?

We would love to support you and join with you.

Please feel welcome to create your own day of service. Let us know what you are doing and when,  and we will share it on our Operation Serve to Heal Instagram page and help you spread the word.

We would love to hear your story, who you are serving in honor of and what it meant to you.

Service is Powerful


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May 1st 2008 was the day we lost Brad.  Every year, the month or so leading up to May 1st is just really difficult for me.  I can feel it sneaking up when spring starts to come.  I can’t stop my mind from revisiting every last experience we had with Brad…  It’s emotionally exhausting. In the 7 May 1st’s we’ve had since 2008 I haven’t been able to figure out a way around it. Everything we lost being counted down again, year after year.  The apprehension about the arrival of this day and the weeks leading up to it are usually more difficult than the day it’s self.

Interestingly, May 1st, while I always dread it and it is always difficult. It is also a day that I know Brad is just so close. It is a tender mercy day.  Every year we try to do things that will help bring us peace and remind us of Brad.  We have little rituals that help. I always go to the temple if it is open. This helps me the most. We go as a family to the cemetery and do a balloon release. This has also been a good thing. The girls love sending letters up to Daddy. We get together with family and others who loved Brad as well.  These things always help. But it is still always a heart wrenching day that I am happy to have over.

The Experiment

This year was a little different. Tyler had been out on her mission about 6 weeks. We were all still adjusting to her being gone and missing her a lot. I knew that this year would be hard, partly because of that.

I wanted to try something a little different this year. I have some amazing widow friends who I get great ideas from all the time. I had seen online that some of them had gone around and done good deeds on anniversaries of difficult days. I LOVED that idea.  So, I started working on a plan for our upcoming horrible day.

We talked as a family {Sophie and Addie and I – our little family seems so small now… – side note – the other day while setting the table Addie said, “I wish there was still five of us.” It broke my heart. But, I love that she knows that there really are five of us. That it seems like something is off because she’s setting a place for only three.  I pray that each of my girls know that there are always five of us…but that we just don’t all need a plate}

We talked about what we could do that would be special and meaningful on May 1st. We talked about how their amazing daddy went around doing good. I have saved countless emails and letters that people have sent telling stories about Brad. The common theme is that he served. He helped. He didn’t wait to be asked, he just looked around and saw what needed to be done and got to work. And he was happy doing it. I feel so blessed to have been the recipient of so much of his goodness. He taught me more than I can put in words.  I am so grateful that the girls will get to read those stories and know this about their daddy.

I pitched them my idea about doing some good deeds. They were both excited. {although Sophie did express some concerns that I was going to “give away all our money” haha} They were excited about doing it for people they didn’t know and having it be a surprise.

Healing through Serving

So we got to work. We printed up some cards that we could hand out with gift cards.

For family night the girls wrote notes on the backs of those little cards.

May 1 A New Day cards

After school on May 1st we got busy with our 

“Do a Good Deed Day” 

We went around buying food for people at the drive through and giving out gift cards… We talked about how doing something nice for someone else might help us not be so sad today. 

And I have to say is, 


It really was so fun.

{& just so you know, fun and May 1st are words I never thought could ever belong in the same sentence.}   

The girls were so excited, watching the different cars behind us, knowing that they were going to get a  little surprise. They were giddy when we were driving away. Sophie loves to “spy” She’s created her own spy club and loves being sneaky. She said this was like a “nice spy day” and she loved it. 

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may 1 a new day my girls

It sounds cliche, but choosing to do something besides think about our pain helped so much. 

Other May 1st’s I’ve just let myself be swallowed up in the pain of everything that I lost on this day.

Other May 1st’s I have had to force myself to function.

After reading about my widow friends doing this I knew it was something that could change this day for us.  I needed it to not be about me. It needed to be about something bigger.

Sharing With Others

Making it a day that we do good things in honor of Brad completely changed everything.

I was hesitant to post about what we did because – I don’t know- It seemed strange to write about doing something for someone else. But, If my friends who did this wouldn’t have posted about it, I probably would not have thought to do it on my own… so I decided to share.

This year our May 1st was completely different. 

There were still lots of tears shed. 

But some of those this year were happy…

Happy tears watching my girls be SO excited about giving gifts.

Happy tears knowing that Brad would be happy with what we did with this day.

Happy tears for all the family and friends who reach out and help. Our day was filled surprise treats dropped by the house, gifts on the porch and encouraging notes, texts and messages. Every note and like on Facebook was noticed and appreciated. 

I am so grateful for people who let us know that they remember.

It’s funny the way it works out. We always seem to get so much more than we give.

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This year our May 1st was transformed. 

I think we have a new tradition.

In honor of Major Brad Funk

May 1 a new day Major Funk

{looks like the guest of honor showed up as well}

six years closer to you my boy.